This is for my single ladies. How are y’all doing? It’s hard being single in the summer. There’s so many fun things to do and you want to enjoy them with someone special. Actually scratch that, it’s hard being single in general. I’m in a weird place because I love my alone time and by no means am I someone that has to be in a relationship or ‘talking to someone’ at all times but sometimes I’m like, ‘perhaps I do want someone to enjoy these things with.’ I’ve texted and rebirthed old stuff I shouldn’t have due to that feeling. It’s never turned out to be anything beneficial, it’s just better to wait. Better to resist sending that text because feelings will go away eventually but emptiness will stay if you don’t learn how to be strong in moments of weakness. Emptiness is kind of a strong word, but that’s what that feeling is, right? There’s a reason why you have to bring someone into the picture, there’s a reason why where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing isn’t enough. It’s totally normal for us to miss people or wish things were different, but I think that (and I’m not an expert by any means) when emotions are mixed with wishful thinking, things can get messy. And maybe it’s not emptiness for you, maybe it’s boredom and you want entertainment. Either way it’s pointless in the grand scheme of things. Until you have a sense of peace and patience, you will repeat unhealthy relationship cycles. This is honestly so vulnerable and uncomfortable for me to write and I hope the person I’ve texted doesn’t see this but if they do, it’ll be alright. This verse comes to mind “Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.”
Song of Solomon 8:3-4 MSG.
Maybe things aren’t working out because The time isn’t right or you aren’t ready yet. Trust the process, Learn and grow. Being content with where you are doesn’t mean you’re stagnant. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s better to just wait.
Thanks for reading 🙂