Attitude Adjustment

Getting mad because someone annoys you or asks too many questions. you don’t like the way someone expresses their insecurities, so what? You think getting short and snappy with them will make anything better? You say you can’t help it but in reality, you can. If the very person you are getting frustrated with you wanted to take you on your dream vacation or give you money, I bet you’d learn how to be patient with them. Ask yourself what you’re really annoyed about? Are they interrupting you, making you uncomfortable? Hmm..lots of ‘you’ in there. Perhaps take the focus off of yourself for a minute and understand where this person is coming from. No one can change your mood. Only you have control over your responses. Breath, take a minute but be cognizant of your tone and facial expression. I guarantee the person on the receiving end of your attitude is not trying to ruin your day or annoy you. But you might have hurt their feelings and caused them to feel less. Analyze your heart before responding. Nothing is worse than being around someone you have to walk around on eggshells with. The people in your life love you and always will. But think about what is REALLY ticking you off when that person asks a question, opens their mouth, touches you, or breathes. It might be hidden resentment or ill feelings you have about yourself at that moment. We are human so we will slip up but just remember that the way you respond to someone who is simply trying to love you or help you can impact them for better or for worse. They may not say anything because they are patient and understanding but you may be causing them pain unintentionally.

I wrote this to myself after spending 10 days visiting my family in Springfield, Mo. i sent a message to the family group chat with an ending no one should ever have to send to people they love. I said ‘ thanks for being patient with me when I had an attitude.’ And I joke about this but I don’t want to be the sassy sister, daughter anymore. I think out of the 10 days there was maaybe one day I didn’t have an attitude with a member of my family. Why? I couldn’t tell you because I love each one of them with my heart and soul. My excuse was ‘I literally can’t help it’ or ‘I’m trying’ but that doesn’t matter when other people’s feelings are involved. Who’s to say I hurt anyone’s feeling because I honestly don’t think I did (prayerfully I didn’t) but just the thought of being a grouch or unnecessarily snapping at someone disturbs me. Like, being in a constant state or irritation is not OK. I think there are ways to stand up for yourself and communicate irritation without sass. Right? Can anyone else relate? It’s not cute nor is creating a positive environment. Life is too short to let little things get to you. I promise I’m a nice person and I don’t always have a chip on my shoulder! I think a lot of my friends would say I’m a patient, kind, loving person, my family even would. But they would also agree that I do let little things annoy me.

I need an attitude adjustment and I’m being brutally honest. I am an advocate for positivity, but the second I get annoyed, summon the (slight) attitude whether that’s in the form of silence or a cut-throat, cold response. Taking steps towards personal development is imperative-Emphasizing the personal. I started this blog to help others live out their best lives through my experiences and thoughts. Loving yourself and being positive are great! But identifying areas of improvement within yourself and being honest about them are the keys to developing the world around you for the better. We all have ‘toxic’ traits, I’ve identified mine as getting annoyed and having an unnecessary attitude as a result. But I’m not embracing that trait and I’m actively pursuing developing in that’s area to have a more fulfilling life for myself as well as the people around me.

So y’all, from this day forward I am taking steps to check my attitude as my mom would say and choose not to allow little things to irritate me. Once I figure out has helped me meet this goal I will write out a ‘step-by-step guide to a better attitude for you guys.’ But until then I will leave you with one piece of advice that inspired me to make this change… ‘If you were to be honest, is your attitude self serving from or stemming from a lack of confidence? How can you move you attitude from being one of positive (or negative) to one of love and joy.’ A quote sent to me by my best friend, Mani. I think that as much as we try to have a positive attitude we will see ourselves coming up short but if we keep love and joy at the forefront of our responses we will see love and joy manifest around us.

Thanks for Reading:)

Every Good Thing

‘Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.

James 1:17 New International Version (NIV)

We love gratitude nowadays and I think that’s awesome! Gratitude journals are everywhere. Studies show that reflecting and remembering all the good things in our lives is proven to bring more happiness and joy. But Sometimes we are thankful and grateful but forget to thank the Provider of those good thing- Our Heavenly Father. Every Good thing that happens to us is from God. He gives us each day and provides for our every need. I was listening to ‘Every Good Thing’ by For All Seasons (check it out when you can!)

I began to feel the need to praise God as I listened to the lyrics. I began to think about my current situation and how despite frustration, he has provided SO many great things: Family, friends, support, etc.… things that are easily overlooked in moments of disappointment. The opening of the song starts with ‘Looking at my life-every low and every high, let me count the ways you’ve shown up in perfect time.’  

Take that in… Can you think of a time where He came through for you just in the nick of time?

Any need we have, he provides! It may be just enough to get us by but He never allows us to go without what we need. We can get through a tough day knowing that He provides the strength to withstand tomorrow. We know that whatever we face in this life is preparing us for greater, don’t look past the season you are in. If you are going through a tough time or can’t see the good in your situation, Look up, He’s got you! 

 

Hey Younger Me

I’ve come to a point in my life where self reflection and self development go hand-in-hand. In order to move forward, it’s good to identify your weaknesses and the patterns that have repeated themselves for better or for worse over the years. I learned that I can’t do better without breaking free from the negative, counterproductive mindsets I have grown accustomed to. What better way to pin point the areas of improvement than to go back in time? I decided to write a note to my younger self.

Dear Younger Me,

My hope is that you understand that you are valuable. I think that has been your biggest issue and we didn’t uncover that until recently. But it’s all coming together see, the way you’ve given up on yourself in the past and settled for mediocre performance in school, relationships, jobs,etc is all because you didn’t see the value in fighting for someone you really didn’t know(yourself). I want to help you out a little while you’re young. When you spend Time by yourself, take that time to see the beauty that is within you, look beyond what is skin deep. You don’t need new clothes, alcohol,or the latest whatever to have a seat at the table. Nothing that can be taken from you is something you should prioritize over self development. Do more with less, I know it’s seems like you need something extra to be happy and to fit in, but trust me if you learn to work with what you have and turn that into something amazing you’ll be happier and more successful in all you do. If you aren’t good at something, keep trying until you get better. Don’t give up on yourself, you are more capable than you think. Make it your mission to enjoy the simple things in life, like spending time with your family. You love buying things and that’s OK but no item can compare to the fulfillment of strong relationships and being well-rounded. Part of knowing your value is having appreciation for your upbringing. Your Mom is instilling lessons in you right now that you are resisting but one day have you will literally have to go back and tell her she was right all along 🙂 Her most important lesson- apart from God you can do nothing. Don’t groan at going to church Sunday and Wednesday because you’d rather do something else. Your relationship with God is your most important relationship, he is going to give you guidance on the schools, friends and jobs you chose. He’s also going to be your restoration and peace when you feel like life is falling apart. Don’t be ashamed to talk about Him around your friends because you may end up helping them. You can leave an impact just by standing out, be bold. I’m tearing up as I type this because you just don’t know how much He has brought you through.

On a lighter, random note, girl Push through that last 200 meters at track practice and run more after if needed. Don’t slow down because the person behind you is catching up. Pick it up and fight! gain the mental toughness it takes to preserve when you are in pain. Pain meaning any type of discomfort: frustration, being tried, overwhelm, doubt, whatever. Something as simple as pushing through the finish line at track practice can make a huge impact in your future.

I’m going to leave you with this, give your all in everything you do, learn to communicate your feelings effectively, and love everyone in your life unconditionally. You are going to be just fine.

With love,

FJ

You Have to Work for it

What do you want more than anything? Whatever it is, it will almost always require hard work and dedication. For me, I want to run a marathon, The New York or Boston Marathon. I’ve dreamt about crossing the finishline crying tears of joy because something that was impossible for me at one point, became possible.  I went to the Rock and Roll Marathon in D.C this weekend to support some people I knew from a local running community. I couldn’t help but wish I was out there in the mist, running along in the parade-like crowd. But guess what? I had not prepared for that moment, I didn’t put in the blood, sweat and tears that these individuals did. You know how the saying goes, ‘no sweat, no glory.’ I think a lot of times we glorify end results more than the process it takes to get there. We glorify the idea of graduating from college and starting our careers, not understanding that after we graduate we start as entry level and will have to work our way to the ‘top’ all over again. Or we get this really awesome idea to read 52 books in a year, not realizing that 52 books in a year is 1 book a week. If you don’t plan on reading children’s books that means you literally won’t be able to watch tv or have the free time you normally have. You have focus in on your goal to make it a reality. There comes a time when you’ve got to put a stop to just dreaming about what you want and incorporate the work into the dream! I mentioned last week not letting distractions get in the way. Today, I say don’t let frustrations, hardship or disappointment stop you from getting to where you want to be or…laziness. So let me ask one more time, what do you want more than anything? Go after it with full force, plan out your week to fit in practicing, working out, reading, cooking, writing into your schedule. Let’s get it!

An Abundance Mindset

Have you ever held something back out of fear you might run out? I’m not talking about telling your friend you just ate your last piece of gum to avoid anyone else asking for a piece(I do this a lot so please keep me in prayer :P). Like, really holding back your resources, love, expertise, time,etc because you are scared someone might get ahead or you might be taken advantage of? Or maybe you are concerned about too many people doing what you are trying to do. There are countless reasons why we hold back. And let me tell you, there is plenty out there to share! Scarcity is a mindset and so many of us are programmed to think this way. Scarcity says ‘there’s a limit to everything and I must make sure I have plenty.’ Abundance says, ‘ there will always be enough’. One of my favorite authors Steve Covey, wrote in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ‘People with a scarcity mindset have a difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power and profit.’ Does that sound like a person you want to be? Me either. I want to be so confident in who I am that I’m not worried about anyone or anything draining from me. Which is obviously difficult in the society we live in today, a society that tells you to only look out for yourself. But here’s the problem with only looking out for yourself, it puts a limit to what you will receive. Luke 6:37 states ‘Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back‘ Kind of makes you want to give everything, doesn’t it? So not only when you give will you get what you’ve given back, but you’ll receive so much more. Whether it is monetary or in the form of a something invaluable like peace or love. That is abundance. There is enough. There will always be more. There is more than enough for you. You can give your all and you wont run empty or lack in any way. You can donate to charity or someone in need because when you bless others you are also going to be blessed. You can share that advice without the threat that anything will be taken away from you. An abundance mindset tells you there is always new opportunities. It opens your mind to see the endless possibilities that exist. Abundance is all about enjoying the present moment because tomorrow is not promised. When you have an abundance mindset your relationships are better, you are not worried about how much is too much to give- you won’t hold back but freely give. Scarcity is confining, Abundance is free. I want to work each day to cultivate abundance in love, finances and health.

Thank you for reading. 🌄

Part 3: Peace

Whew, we’ve made it to the end of the series! We’re clear on what we want and need and we’re embracing

our lives, so, what’s next? Having peace about who you are. So cliché, but bear with me please. When I tell you

this was the hardest topic for me to write about I’m not exaggerating. Being at peace with who you are doesn’t

come naturally.  Let me just say, it is much easier to write out everything that you want and need or to

embrace life with joy when there is no discomfort. But throw some hardship in there and you may lose your

peace. Especially when your current situation doesn’t really align with who you say you are or want to be.

When what was put on paper or dreamt about isn’t as glamorous as we thought we tend to go back to what

we’re used to. Back to doing whatever is thought to be acceptable and cool.  Back to doing what everyone else

is doing. Back to playing it safe. But when things get shaky, it takes a level of courage to have and keep peace

with who you are and where you’re going. It’s having enough peace when there’s no money to splurge on the

things you want or you’re having an off day to not allow the feelings that come with obstacles stop you from

seeing your unmatched potential. Have peace about each quality you possess (good or bad) because your

uniqueness is what makes you, you. You can stay on your time and path of life without comparing your journey

to anyone else’s. Life is going to throw some curve balls but don’t let them discourage you from loving who you

are! Be brave enough to not allow yourself or anyone steal you peace! Let’s go be great.

Part 1: Clarity on What You Want and Need

 

clarity

Welcome to 2019! With only two days into the year, if you are anything like me you probably haven’t had a chance to right out all of your goals yet and that is OK. I think that before we can even make goals, it’s important to be clear on exactly what we want from this year, from life, from our relationships, from our Career, etc..  Likewise, In order to fully know and understand who you are, you have to ask questions for clarity. Kind of like when you are getting to know someone, fully knowing each other doesn’t come after the initial introduction. You have to ask questions. Not just any questions, though, the right questions. I’m  reading Brendan Burchard’s book the Motivation Manifesto and he provides endless insight on breaking the barriers that block us from becoming  our true selves. In the book he states we should write out ‘our own manifesto, our own written declaration of what our lives are to be about.’ He gives a list of essential questions to ask:

What am I really after in life? 

What do I truly want to create and contribute? 

What kind of person do I want to show the world?

What types of persons shall I love and enjoy life with? 

What great cause will keep me going when I feel weak? 

What shall be my ultimate legacy? 

What steps must I take to begin and sustain these efforts? 

How will I orient my days to accomplish these goals this week? Month? Year? 

I encourage you to join me in writing these questions out and answering each one with your truth. Look at them daily, weekly, or monthly to remember and be clear about who you are and what you want!

Three Ways to Get Rid of ‘The Block’

Have you ever heard of writers block? Its ‘the condition of being unable to think of what to write or how to proceed with writing.’ Well similar to a writer, we grinders can hit a block. We can have a hard time being able to clearly define and reach our goals. That feeling of being stuck in motion. Everything is moving around you but you don’t see any trajectory. Failure after failure, paycheck to paycheck, same stuff, different day. Nothing seems to be going the way you want. You feel unmotivated, frustrated, hopeless, and bored. Writers normally find inspiration by: establishing a routine, going for a walk, reading inspirational quotes, and trying something new-change of scenery. Here’s a few things that work for grinders:

Be Forceful

There’s nothing more debilitating than feeling unmotivated. Not wanting to get out of bed in the morning, grabbing your phone instead of focusing on the task at hand, taking the easy way out because putting your best foot forward is too much work. These things are blocking you from getting to where you need to be. Force yourself to wake up at 5:30am when your alarm goes off. You know snoozing it only makes you rush and be late for work. Force yourself to not look at your phone while you’re working because it’s a distraction. Force yourself to go workout before or after work. Stop putting off asking that person to be your mentor and force yourself to call them. I know saying force sounds kind of harsh but you can’t continue to be lackadaisical with your dreams- it has done nothing for you I’m preaching to the choir here, but I am definitely being more forceful in my daily life, I grown entirely too comfortable with not being motivated and its caused a series of mediocrity. Time is of the essence. When the urge to be mediocre arouses, stop it in its tracks and force yourself to be great.

Be Intentional

It’s very easy to not feel like going to work or hitting the gym. Setting an intention for a task, job, workout, call, or meeting can make an enormous difference. It keeps the end in mind result in mind when the present moment is tough. Think of what you want to get out of your day and how you want to feel. I’ve read somewhere that the future you hope for can be found in your daily routine- the present that you are conducting should look like the future you are working towards. Not just being intentional about your day but about your future can help prevent the block. This correlates primarily to financial ambitions. If saving for a vacation is at the top of mind, it may be easier to say no to going out and spending the money that could be used to toward your trip.  Having a reason or intention for everything you do will allow you to prioritize what matters and eliminate the things that don’t.

 

Make Your Goals Visible

Write them out every morning before you start your day. Set reminders on your phone or alarms. Keep reminding yourself of your goals, daily. For me, I have a vision board that hangs right in front of my bed and I take a moment each morning to look at what I aspire to be. I have also started journaling my goals for the day in the morning and reflecting on my attainment when the day is over. It holds me accountable and keeps me focused. I’ve even noticed that sometimes I forget I wrote a goal down and at the end of the day, I accomplished that goal! If you’re like me and have trouble staying consistent, writing your goals out can help you stay on track. In the movie Focus starring Will Smith, the characters programmed a gambler to bet on the number 55 by making the number visible throughout his day. The gambler chooses that number because he constantly saw the number and was reminded of it during the day. Below is a link to the clip in the movie. Let’s write our vision and make it clear every day!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XwS68ixemAQ

C’mon press your way out of this Block!

 

For Audio: https://anchor.fm/fahren/episodes/The-BlockGrinders-Block-e26cl5

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Fight Like Your Life Depends on it

Dreams, goals, business ideas, career aspirations and desires. They are all worth fighting for. Fight the urge to scroll, spend more money than you should, binge watch your favorite show or even sleep if it means working towards making your dream a reality. I am reading Nehemiah and I can’t help but be convicted by the dedication to prayer, perseverance and faith he showed. Nehemiah was a leader,a governor in charge and of rebuilding the city of Jerusalem’s walls. Here’s the kicker, he only had 52 days to complete the project. He faced SO much opposition, his enemies tried to tear down his wall multiple times. Discouragement, fear and doubt crept into the minds of those working on rebuilding this wall. But Nehemiah was a man of consistent prayer and faith. He told his people:

Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.
‭‭Nehemiah‬ ‭4:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Whew! Instantly I got chills from reading that. Forget the pain, disgrace, frustration, insecurity and remember how awesome your God is. He makes the paths successful for those who keep him at the forefront. He will fight for you and equip you with everything you need to win. When Nehemiah told his team to fight for their families I was triggered to fight for mine. Believe it or not but the things we are working towards not only benefit us but also our families and communities. Fight because your dream or ambition is greater than you, it will impact so many. You may feel the pressure of needing to be great like now but remember it requires hard work and having a fighting mentality to succeed. We dream up and imagine bossing up or having this huge influence without putting in the prayer and dedication it takes to manifest those things. For me, I can be so confident one minute and completely doubt my abilities the next.

Yes, you are going to hit a few road block and want to quit. You are going to get distracted and have to refocus l, but keep praying and keep fighting.

Effortless Vacation/Holiday Looks 2019

Hello! So vacation, holiday (whatever you call it) season is upon us! I recently went to Cabo with my girls and had a blast. But let me tell you, packing for this trip gave me so much anxiety. I was anxious to the point where I had to check myself and say ‘ what are you doing?’ Vacation is about relaxing and enjoying the company of the people you’re with. In this day and age we sometimes think it’s about pictures and the ‘look’ portrayed on your social media and that’s what causes the anxiety. Because why would relaxing be stressful? Of course you still want to look and feel great so I’m here to share a few simple looks that won’t necessarily break the bank 😉

Flowy 2-Piece Set

I am all about bringing what you already have! This is a 2-piece set from Guess that I purchased for my boyfriend’s birthday brunch. Sets are ideal for vacation because of how effortlessly bomb they are! I love how light and comfortable it is BUT the price was probably the most I’ve paid for clothes ever. It was $150 for the set and that is entirely why I intend to wear it a couple more times. But I also think it’s OK to splurge on one or 2 pieces for vacation if you really love it. This was my splurge!

Satin Mini Dress

Nothing is more carefree and easy than a dress! I got this Champagne, Satin dress from PrettyLittleThing a year ago. It’s perfect for a dinner or night out on the town! I would recommend getting a size up for comfortability. Satin can get a little toasty in the summer so being as breathable as possible is a plus. Mine is snug so trust me on this. Vacay is all about being free and flowy so bring things you are comfortable in!

The only picture in the outfit that was full length. Sorry.

White Jeans

C’mon you can only wear White pants 4 months out of the year, so why not bring them on vacay? This look cost me $80 with the shoes included. I am wearing gorgeous gaucho white jeans from H&M, leopard print top from H&M and brown Slip-On wedges from Forever 21. This was my favorite outfit from the entire trip because of its simplicity and elegance. Less is always more and I can’t stress enough how important it is to wear things that make you feel beautiful while you are on vacation. To some this is a regular outfit, but you couldn’t tell me nuffin’:)

Light Make-up

No makeup is ideal on vacation but on the occasions you want to be more glam above are two easy looks I wore during my trip. Each took less than 20mins and they weren’t heavy. Light foundation(1pump),concealer under the eyes, bronzer to add more color and a natural lash! You’ll be good to go(:

Biker Shorts

For daytime activities biker shorts were a go-to for half of the crew! Some wore them at the airport as a comfy, cute look. They have a legging-like feel and add an edge without being overly casual. I got mine from the thrift store years ago and paired them with a ‘Biggie and Jay-Z’ graphic crop top from TJ Maxx and vans.

Vacation is a chance to reset from our busy work schedules. Packing and getting outfitS together shouldn’t be stressful. Splurge if you want, pack a few things you already have and be confident because you’re beautiful! I hope this helped.

Thanks for reading 🙂

When They See Us: Lessons I Learned From 5 Heroic Men

If you haven’t watched it by now, you’ve more than likely seen a promotion about it. The Netflix documentary series ‘When They see Us’ has everyone raving. The jaw-dropping, captivating, and informational series will make you want to fight for justice. I found myself crying my eyes out, yelling at the television and compelled as I watched the show in the living room of my home. I wanted to comfort each young man as they were tormented and forced to confess to something they didn’t do by the police and investigators. The hope it must have required to serve 5-15 years for the wrongful conviction of a crime you didn’t commit. 

My heart breaks when I think about the 5 young men and the fact that were robbed of their teenage years. Yusef Salaam, Raymond Santana, Kevin Richardson, and Antron McCray were sentenced to 5-10 years in juvenile correction facilities. Korey Wise, the oldest at 16 was sentenced as an adult to 5-15 years in prison. I couldn’t imagine, Korey said in his own words ‘I went through something that no one wants to go through, yet are so inquisitive about.’ I’ll admit, I am one of those inquisitive people. HOW did they do it?

I thought to myself ‘that couldn’t have been me, I wouldn’t let those hateful, inexperienced investigators treat me like that’ but you never know how you will react in a situation until you are in it. I am extremely grateful for the sacrifices of heroic figures such as the ‘Central Park 5.’ They were racially profiled, robbed of their teenage years, and hated without reason. However, they never stooped to the level of their oppressors- they rose and held onto their truth. Sadly, the justice system has and in most cases, continues to see brown skin as ‘suspects’ before truly analyzing the evidence. The truth ALWAYS comes to the light and the Central Park 5 case is an example of that. I applaud each of the victims of this case for their strength and perseverance. While watching this documentary I took Note of very important life lessons.

Hold onto Your Truth

Under the pressure of the police the young men were manipulated into admitting to a crime they did not commit. Even after the trial, there was no evidence or DNA that linked any of the five young men to the scene of the crime. However, because of investigators and the intensity of the interrogations the young men had written statements and made confessions on Camera that contradicted the truth which resulted in them being sentenced to time in jail. In the documentary, after Yusef and Kevin Richardson were released from jail, there is a scene where they have to attend a registered sex offender registration course. The women running the meeting (assuming she was law enforcement), asked Kevin if he would like to admit to the crime he was accused of. Kevin said ‘no’ because he did not commit any crime. The women was shocked and continued to pry him, yet Kevin held on to his truth. So many times we fold under pressure or allow people to speak what they believe is our truth: ‘you will never amount to anything’, ‘ You aren’t fit for this job’, ‘It’s impossible to do that’, etc. I love how Korey told the parol board that he wasn’t going to waste his time meeting with them if they weren’t ready to hear His truth. I think it is important that we hold onto our truth and never let go.

Continue to Do Good

The scene where Korey meets the actual rapist, Matias Reyes was the glimpse of hope we were all waiting for. Korey had experienced brutal injuries and Been held in solitary confinement for long periods of time. While the other 4 had been released from jail, Korey was still awaiting his parol. Years before Korey and Matias had an altercation at another prison but were separated. Fast forward and they are in the same correctional facility. Matias approaches Korey, apologizes for the prior disagreement, and commends him on his perseverance for serving time for something he did not do. Korey accepts his apology and keeps it moving without knowing that his courage had inspired Matias to confess. Had Korey tried to rehash the past and fight Matias, things may have turned out differently. Korey could’ve allowed years and years of frustration and heartache to be taken out on Matias, but he did the right thing and forgave him. This reminded me of the times I have a allowed a set back or bad day get me off track. I wonder if we approach tough situations with positivity and perseverance if that would make way for a huge breakthrough. The Bible says ‘do not grow weary in doing good for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up’ (Galatians 6:9). Thus, continue to do good because you never know how close you are to your breakthrough.

I have watched ‘When They See Us’ twice already and will watch it even more times. I believe this movie should be watched by everyone to captivate and drive the courage to fight for injustice. Atron McCray, Raymond Santana, Kevin Richardson, Yusef Salaam, and Korey Wise are living examples of strength and perseverance.

An Abundance Mindset: Breaking Free From the Mindset of Scarcity

Have you ever held something back out of fear you might run out? I’m not talking about telling your friend you just ate your last piece of gum to avoid anyone else asking for a piece(I do this a lot so please keep me in prayer :P). Like, really holding back your resources, love, expertise, time,etc because you are scared someone might get ahead or you might be taken advantage of? Or maybe you are concerned about too many people doing what you are trying to do. There are countless reasons why we hold back. And let me tell you, there is plenty out there to share! Scarcity is a mindset and so many of us are programmed to think this way. Scarcity says ‘there’s a limit to everything and I must make sure I have plenty.’ Abundance says, ‘ there will always be enough’.

One of my favorite authors Steve Covey, wrote in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ‘People with a scarcity mindset have a difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power and profit.’ Does that sound like a person you want to be? Me either. I want to be so confident in who I am that I’m not worried about anyone or anything draining from me. Which is obviously difficult in the society we live in today, a society that tells you to only look out for yourself. But here’s the problem with only looking out for yourself, it puts a limit to what you will receive. Luke 6:37 states ‘Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back‘ Kind of makes you want to give everything, doesn’t it? So not only when you give will you get what you’ve given back, but you’ll receive so much more.

Whether it is monetary or in the form of a something invaluable like peace or love. That is abundance. There is enough. There will always be more. There is more than enough for you. You can give your all and you wont run empty or lack in any way. You can donate to charity or someone in need because when you bless others you are also going to be blessed. You can share that advice without the threat that anything will be taken away from you. An abundance mindset tells you there is always new opportunities. It opens your mind to see the endless possibilities that exist. Abundance is all about enjoying the present moment because tomorrow is not promised. When you have an abundance mindset your relationships are better, you are not worried about how much is too much to give- you won’t hold back but freely give. Scarcity is confining, Abundance is free. I want to work each day to cultivate abundance in love, finances and health.

Thank you for reading. 🌄

How to Make Meal Prepping Fun (ish)

Hopefully you had a great weekend and you didn’t wear yourself out. For most, Sunday’s are a day of rest, but sometimes they feel like work because of meal prepping. If you meal prep you know if saves a ton of time during the week but while you’re doing it, it can get frustrating and tiresome. Am I the only one that has a love/hate with meal prepping? Washing, chopping, seasoning, cooking and cleaning up everything can literally take hours. But hey! It’s part of adulthood so might as well have fun doing it, right? I literally used to want to cry because I had to meal prep and the weekend was over- every Sunday. So I decided to be a big girl and make it fun. Here are my tips!

Plan Before the Prep

Take a deep breath, meal prepping is not something you want to rush. You will end up with sloppy food you won’t want to eat and waste your time and money. Many times I’ve thrown things together in the name of getting a head start to the week and ended up throwing some of the food away. Having a game plan is essential. I typically go on Pintrest and search for recipes that match what I have a taste for(healthy choices). I also love reading post on blogs specifically about food. The Curlie cook is definitely one of my favs for healthy, delicious recipes! check it out! (https://www.thecurliecook.com/) She even has awesome Apple Music playlist for you to jam to while you cook! After I have an idea of what I’m making I look at the ingredients and make sure I have everything needed before heading to the grocery store. When you get home, wash all your veggies first, chop them, THEN cut your meat. It will save a lot of time and avoid cross-contamination. While you crop everything, if you’re making rice or pasta, go ahead and boil the water to get that started. After everything is chopped, wash the dishes that are no longer in use, it will help at the end of the session to have less dishes. Save yourself time and clean as you go. (:

Phone a Friend

OK so the mundane part is complete! Now onto the next tip. You know that college friend you keep playing phone tag with? Give ’em a call while you cook. Having company while prepping is a great way to push through and maybe they can even suggest a few new recipes for you try. I love to catch up with old friends while I’m cooking, it helps the time go by faster and if you’re not a huge talker (like me) it makes for the perfect duration to check-in and have good conversation. Once your food is done you can end the call without any awkwardness. OR invite your friends over if they live in your area. You all can talk, eat, and watch Netflix all while you ‘adult’. Don’t do prepping alone!

Listen to Music

I mentioned that The Curlie Cook has a great upbeat playlist to jam to while you cook. But you can make your own playlist that will keep you motivated while you cook. Dance, get loose, and have fun!

Learn

Do you have a favorite speaker or Podcast that talks about topics relevant to areas of work or interest? listen and learn from the best while you cook. Grab your wireless speaker and take mental notes!

Meal Prepping doesn’t have to be boring. It is one way to save-time during the week, so make it work for you. Plan out your meals in advance, Catch-up with a friend, get your jam on, or listen to a podcast to make prepping more enjoyable!

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